Stranger Loudly Criticizes Man For Carrying Daughter To Car Only To Have Comeback Leave Grown Man Sobbing
Cailyn Finkel 8/14/2018
Did someone step out of their car with a bounce in their step after parking in a handicap spot? You had no idea the stranger suffers from an unseen disability. The woman cutting ahead in line? She's rushing to visit a family member in the hospital. The man who snapped at you on the phone? He's going through a painful divorce.
Even though it's easy for us to judge others for what we think they're doing wrong, many of us don't consider what's going on behind the scenes.
These type of scenarios play out every single day - but we generally fail to see the cause behind the action. Unfortunately, that's exactly what played out when Brent Gehring and his family walked around town a few weeks ago....
Brent carried his daughter in his arms as the family left the Union Oyster House in Boston, Mass. after a much-needed dinner out. But it was what one stranger screamed at them that had Brent clenching his fists and begging God for patience.
Brent shared what happened next with the Love What Matters page.
"We are all guilty of it. We are scrolling through Facebook and see 12 kids trapped in a cave, a family that was in an accident and lost a loved one, a family member is diagnosed with cancer.
You stop and read the story. You feel bad and wonder what it would be like to be that family. Then you scroll on and read the latest meme or watch a funny video and you forget about that family that is lost and doesn't know how to move on.
This post doesn't come looking for pity for Emma or my family. What I am asking is for a change in today's world. a change in the way we think. The world is what we as people make it. We have the power to make days better or worse for others. I choose to attempt to make lives better.
Today, I am going to do this by telling you a story. A story that I have only shared with my wife and my daughter Emma, who was with me. The same daughter that was told earlier today that she will soon start her 7th, yes 7th round of chemotherapy for a brain tumor. She is only 6 by the way.
My daughter and I were leaving dinner the other night at Union Oyster House in Boston, MA. A dinner donated to us by an amazing business and friend that has been in our 'family' for years. When I crossed the street carrying her, she can't walk without the use of her walker. A man yelled at me from 30' away: 'What the F***?' He yelled. 'Make her walk. That's what is wrong with kids today.'"
"I had a choice to make at that time. Can I make myself feel better by screaming at him or can I teach him something about life? I won't lie to you and tell you that it was an easy choice but I got inches from his face, with my daughter in my arms, and quietly asked him if he was referring to my daughter. 'Hell yes' he said.
I responded with 'My daughter has been carrying my faith and my strength for the past 5 years since she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. She can't walk but I am happy to carry her because of all the amazing things she has taught me through the years. So I would advise you not to address my daughter in any way other than respectful'
I won't tell you the rest of the story but it ended with two grown men with tears rolling down their faces. One that needed to have his eyes opened to what real life and real love is and one that is always needing a reminder that good can come from any situation.
This story is only important if it serves as a reminder that you don't always know the whole story so don't judge others.
You have the power to make people's days better or worse. What did you do today? What will you do tomorrow?
I promise you this, through hell and high water, Emma has made each and every day of my life a blessing. I praise God for bringing her into my life.
Emma, you are perfect just as you are and we will help carry you through chemo #7."
Brent didn't have to educate these men on the errors of their ways - he simply could've decked them in the face and continued on with his night. But the moment was too important to pass up.
He wanted to answer hate with love, misguided actions with understanding. We can all strive to do that a little more in our own lives. The reason behind someone's seemingly "wrong" actions in our eyes may be something we could never have guessed. Brent proved it pays to have a little patience.
To learn how you can make a difference for Emma and children like her, check out her official website.
Learn more about this teachable moment and Brent's excellent response here. He has the self-control of a saint...