Woman Posts About “Great Husband” Only Photos Depict Truth No One Ever Bothered To Notice
Kristin Danley 9/4/2018
Makeup can cover the bruises. Long sleeves can hide the red marks.
A smile plastered across your face whenever you're out in public can conceal the pain you carry with you every second of every day. Pictures posted on social media can tell the story of a perfect life.
But the reality is vastly different. The truth is far from what others believe, from the facade you've created.
You tell yourself you're staying because the alternative would be too painful for the children or that he'd come after you if you left. So you suffer in place, day after day.
When 25-year-old Julie Starr read an emotionally charged Facebook post written by Rachel Wilson, it struck a chord with the young woman. Rachel had just learned about the father and husband in Colorado who allegedly snuffed out the shining lights of his two daughters and his pregnant wife.
Everything she read indicated that no one knew there was a monster lurking deep inside him. Her social media posts indicated everything was fine and dandy.
"...their friends and family ‘had no idea’ there were problems. He is a ‘great guy… a great husband and father’ – how could he have done this!?"
Rachel knew the answer. Rachel had been living it for years.
"It's because he did it when no one was looking."
Julie added to Rachel's story with her own similar experiences that she shared with Love What Matters. Finally, she had had enough of the belittling and battering going on in her own life.
"When I left, everybody was so surprised. They asked why I wouldn't stay any longer. 'You can't just give up on a marriage.'"
So why did she leave? Because her daughter's and her life was at stake.
Rachel and Julie have been spit on. They have been slapped.
They've been called names. They were told "Good luck leaving. Nobody would ever want you ... look at you."
"THAT'S NOT LOVE."
Julie was shoved backward and landed on the coffee table. When she reached for her cell phone to call for help, her significant other snatched it up, took all of the house phones and hid them so she couldn't call the police on him.
Rachel watched her husband punch holes in their walls, in their bedroom door, in the bathroom door and purposely slammed her hand in one of those doors. She was too embarrassed to tell the doctors what really had happened.
They've been locked outside in the dead of winter wearing only a thin T-shirt. They've escaped to their bedroom with the door locked, wide awake out of fear that he would break in and harm them.
"He doesn't love you. If you have ever cried yourself to sleep. If you’ve ever prayed for God to change his heart. If you’ve ever prayed for strength to leave.
Leave before you are the one on the news. Leave before your family is questioning what/how/why it happened. Because ‘they didn’t know.’
He is strong… but you are stronger."
Both women believe wholeheartedly that there are good men out there. Men who won't raise their voice, let alone their hand.
Those are the men you look for. Those are the men who will love you for you.
Julie and Rachel encouraged anyone who is battered, abused, threatened or fear for their safety to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org to live chat with someone 24/7. "Help is out there and you are not alone."